Well, What did you say to her?

Ever had that chest crushing, paralyzing feeling when you look at a beautiful girl? You know the kind of feeling where all you can do is look, fuck that, stare at her with (for lack of a better word) lust. A thousand thoughts run through your mind: whats her name, should I say Hi, come on dude just say hi and smile fuck at least wave, will she be interested though?, maybe she will, I wonder if she's a virgin, she has nice lips, legs, breasts and ass dude just fucking say hi... then you start rationalizing your pussy ways: she looks like a bitch though, a hott chick like that definately has a boyfriend I don't want to be beaten up, fuck that why should I make her feel good about herself by hitting on her if she's just going to reject me, I bet she's a slut and I've got a bright future I can't afford to get a STI, why should I say Hi-she has a perfectly able mouth, BJ, (lol these are actual thoughts of some of my boys): then while you're stuck in you head the inevitable happens you meet eyes, you continue to stare expectantly. She walks towards you, your heart starts racing: you want to say Hi but nothing comes out she walks past you, you follow her with your eyes right into the arms of some undeserving loser. Yeah, I know. They call this overwhelming feeling AA (approach anxiety).

Good news you're not alone (everyone experiences it); Bad news the feeling never EVER completely goes away even after you get really good at this stuff the feeling still remains.
So does this mean you'll never be able to approach a beautiful woman? No it fortunately does not, it just means you are going to have to fucking push yourself until the AA is more like an itch and less chest crushing.

I personally think that the cause of AA, more so than anything else, is the fear of not knowing what to say. Yeah sure getting a drink thrown in your face or being slapped by a girl your attracted to are unpleasant and somewhat contribute to AA but really now thats almost never going to happen. (Girls want to be hit on which is why they go clubbing wearing skimpy outfits, with tons of make-up and perfume on, around a bunch of drunk horny guys-they aren't there to dance, they're there to get LAID: disclaimer if you hit on a girl and she tells you she's not interested don't force it just move on to the next one, don't think just because she's looking to get laid you can force her to fuck you and blame it on Black Nail Polish, I'm an not a MPUA, I'm just a guy who knows how to get laid) You just have to know what to say and you'll be so in there.

So now the only question that remains is "well, what do I say to her?". I'll get to that in a second, but first I want to tell you a quick story.

I've always surrounded myself with guys who have game, sometimes better game than me, you know so I can steal they're "pick-up-lines" and cause I'm just a really laid back guy when it comes to chicks so having a crew of boys with game benefits me (they bring the girls to me, so I don't have to do shit but fuck). Anyway when I was like 14,15 I was still a virgin, with zero game and had no idea what to say to girls to get them into bed but I had this friend, lets call him E, who just always seemed to know what to say to girls. I'd always listen in on his conversations with girls and he wasn't saying shit that I couldn't have said, he wasn't saying anything mystical or awesome it was actually stupid childish shit but it just always seemed to work. One day this girl I'd been crushing on, lets call her S, invited me and E to a house party. "It's so on buddy" E said "you're finally losing that virginity BS tonight". Man I was excited. E and I got there, the party was happening, we meet up with S and her friend Z, they suggested we move up stairs to S's room so we can "talk". (I actually believed they wanted to just talk). So, we get to the room, E and Z (btw this was the first time they were meeting) start making out almost immediately then E whispers something in her ear, she laughs looks at him and they leave S and myself in the room alone.

Now it's just me and her in the room and I'm scared out of my fucking mind cause I don't know what to say (you can only say those two are animals so many times before it gets old). 10min pass by with idle chitchat (you know: when's you birthday, do you have siblings, what you wana be when you grow up - yeah, I know), 20 min pass by now the arkward silences start to creep in and I start hoping and praying that E comes back, 30min pass I start to fear that E might not come back, 32mins pass, by this point the ackward pauses between sentences are longer and more frequent and she keeps eyeing the door hoping her friend walks back in, the pressure is on, it's time to make a move. I start to think of funny things to say. I start getting desparate, I ask her where she thinks E and her friend are, she answers "I don't know" in a slightly annoyed tone, finally the awkwardness gets too much for her and she tells me she has to go to the toilet she goes and doesn't come back, lol. About 15 minutes later I leave the room and I meet up with E. I asked him how things went... he tapped her, he tapped her, he fn tapped her- and the only question I had was "...well, what did you say her?". That's the question I always had for E after his missions, I wanted a word for word recount, from the word HI to the word BYE.

I don't think I have to tell you how painful it is to fuck up with the girl you're crushing on after she gave you a clear green light just because you didn't know what to say to escalate further. I got pretty convinced I needed to sort this shit out, and thats where Bobby Rio comes in:

Not knowing what to say cost me a lot of, for lack of a better word, pussy. That's until I stummbled across my personal favourite PUA Bobby Rio's Conversation Escalation Master class and Make "small-talk" sexy class. This course is god's gift to guys. It has great routines (not pick up lines), openers, just great allround material, he basically tells you what to say, when to say it, how to say it, how to escalate sexually with very little chance of rejection. He even teaches you how to make the right kinda friends to get laid more and get further in life. He has a course, Social Superstar, where he teaches you how to transform yourself into an A-Lister, this course helps you not only with you social, sexually and romantic life but it can also helps you in your professional life because if you have the ability to talk to people you will go further in life. Bobby Rio is one of the only guys whose's email posts contain more useful information than some PUA's entire courses: This guy is a god.

He also recently release another program: Amplify the Atrraction-I haven't had the pleasure of checking it out yet unfortunately. His also co-founder of TSB magazine... http://www.tsbmag.com/2009/12/14/how-to-improve-your-conversation-skills-podcast/ .... Trust me, you need to check this shit out. BY THE WAY GRAB A FREE COPY OF SMALL-TALK TACTICS REPORT AND A PODCAST BY BOBBY RIO BY FOLLOWING THIS LINK.... and I'll put up some of his videos check those out too... yeah let me know what you think.


"This is the most important skill you'll ever acquire in life." Bobby Rio

Welcome message

I don't know about you but ever since I was 13 years old, the same questions have been bugging the crap out of me: How do I get that girl to be my girlfriend?. What do I say to her? Do I just walk up to her and say; "Hey, what's up I want you?" What if she doesn't like me back? When do I go in for the kiss? How do I go in for the kiss?  How do I get her into bed? How do I escalate from a friendly hi to a full on sexual relationship? Will she think I'm a perv if I try to get her into bed on the first night? Do girls want and enjoy sex as much as we do? (They have an organ whose sole purpose is sexually pleasure, the clitoris, so yeah they want and enjoy sex as much as we do, proberbly even more).

These questions plagued my mind for years until a few year ago when a friend and I stummbled onto the Pick Up community while searching for well, porn. It was a revelation; a world where the worlds greatest PUA (Pick Up Artist) shared their secrets on how to pick up women, how and when to go in for the kiss, how to get girls into bed it was awesome. They had all the answers, so naturally I dove into PU books, videos etc at first it was awesome but I soon came to discover that most of these so-called PUA's were dudes that got laid 3 times using Mystery Method or Magic Bullets and suddenly thought they were good enough to write a book, like seriously wtf. Most of the stuff some of these so-called PUA's write is simple regurgitation of other PUA's work, others just didn't work unless you had that persons personality, looks and or style and ofcourse others simply didn't work.

 That's were I come in I've been around I have over 20 gigs of pick up content on my laptop (talk about obessive), I've proberbly read hundreds if not thousands of pick up related material, and watched a heck of a lot of hours of video not to mention the audio. What I'm saying is that I know what's out there: the good and the bad (trust me when I tell you there's more bad than good), but hey don't get me wrong I am NOT a MPUA (Master PUA)  (I get my fair share of girls, though), I still make many mistakes, some even elementary mistakes. I don't have all the answers but I know who does and who's just bull shitting and I'm here to show you the difference and help you save months if not years following some losers advise. This is NOT a dating advise blog, this is a blog to discuss PU and PUA so that we can all get that girl. Nothing in life is free obviously I'm not writing this blog for my health, I want something from you'll in exchange for hooking you up with people who will change your sex and dating life forever: I want you to help me brush up my game by giving your input on the PUA content I'll be posting, remember this is a discussion blog not a dating advice blog. Cool.

Remeber PU isn't a one sided game you're not trying to trick or convince the girl(s) to sleep with you, you guys aren't opponents you're teammates in a game with the same outcome in mind: dating, make-out or sex as it were and as long as you're both playing the same game you'll get whatever you want everytime. (Bobby Rio's conversation escalation)